Be Yourself. Know Yourself. Grow Yourself

Be Yourself. Know Yourself. Grow Yourself


Be Yourself, Know Yourself. Grow Yourself. What does that really mean for us today?

Fasten your seat belts!  I’m about to type six words that can keep you from experiencing tremendous growth in your life. These six words that will prevent you from evolving and progressing.. These words keeps you from being yourself, knowing yourself and growing yourself. The six words forms one of  the most dangerous and detrimental phrases you can ever speak.

What are those words?  I’ve Always Done It This Way.” It’s a phrase that we’ve all heard at one time or another. It’s a conversational shortcut that allows us to avoid wasting time re-treading old ground.

Have you ever stopped and asked yourself. Why do I the things that I  do? Are the things we do learned behaviors? Things that we have watched our mother’s, grandmother’s aunts, or even co-workers do?

I know that I am guilty of it. Especially when I’m in the kitchen preparing a big meal for a family get together. Oftentimes I have found myself following the same process and method of cooking as did my mother and grandmother. Never stopping to question or ask why. Because I tried to do things exactly like my mother it took me over 30 years to learn how to cook rice. I couldn’t grasp her process so I felt defeated and became the master of Success Rice., Ten minutes, bam, and you’re done. Perfect Rice!  It wasn’t until 2016 that I decided to experiment with cooking rice my way. It took a couple of tries but guess what? I can now successfully cook rice! What a major accomplishment! LOL!

As I continue to grow I now ask myself why “Do I Do The Things That I Do”?  As I have gained confidence in myself I have learned to challenge myself to challenge the process. We all have family traditions that have been handed down from generation to generation but when the development or passing on of patterns which may no longer be beneficial is something that we should all be conscious of.


A young woman is preparing a pot roast while her friend looks on.  She cuts off both ends of the roast, prepares it and puts it in the pan.  “Why do you cut off the ends?” her friend asks.  “I don’t know”, she replies.  “My mother always did it that way and I learned how to cook it from her”. Her friend’s question made her curious about her pot roast preparation.  During her next visit home, she asked her mother, “How do you cook a pot roast?”  Her mother proceeded to explain and added, “You cut off both ends, prepare it and put it in the pot and then in the oven”.    “Why do you cut off the ends?” the daughter asked.  Baffled, the mother offered, “That’s how my mother did it and I learned it from her!”

Her daughter’s inquiry made the mother think more about the pot roast preparation.   When she next visited her mother in the nursing home, she asked, “Mom, how do you cook a pot roast?”   The mother slowly answered, thinking between sentences.  “Well, you prepare it with spices, cut off both ends and put it in the pot”.   The mother asked, “But why do you cut off the ends?” The grandmother’s eyes sparkled as she remembered.   “Well, the roasts were always bigger than the pot that we had back then.  I had to cut off the ends to fit it into the pot that I owned”.

What’s the moral of the story? Just because something has always been done a certain way, doesn’t mean it’s best or the right way! It’s simply “a way”.

When we do things “because that’s what we’ve always done” we fail to seek opportunities for improvement and really be ourselves.

“The most dangerous phrase in language is: I’ve always done it this way.” ~Grace Hopper

When we make a choice to move past the mindset of “I’ve Always Done It This Way” it gives us the opportunity to be our authentic selves. It opens us up to act, think and do differently.

At the tender age of 48 I now realize that change is necessary to get us on the path to our purpose and discovering who we created to be. Resistance to change can be a common ailment that we all suffer from. But without reappraisal, doing it as it has always been done makes you inflexible, inefficient. and stagnant.

In order to experience growth we must become curious and begin to question the why and origin of our actions and decisions.

We have to re-frame “that’s the way we’ve always done it” to embody new methodologies that are in line with who you are. and were created to be? Breaking free from unproductive, recurring, and  unoriginal habits are challenging but once you do you can Just Be You and walk in total freedom. Be Yourself, Know Yourself. Grow Yourself?